What podcasts say about Romantic relationships
Every statement, with the speaker, the exact quote and the moment it was said.
What experts have said about Romantic relationships
14 statements · 5 positive · 7 negative · 1 mixed · 1 neutral
Greater fame makes romantic partners’ motives harder to trust.
“But as you become more and more successful, You have this doubt in your mind, like this could absolutely be her in love with just Drewski and not Drew at all.”
Open the episode · Druski: They're Lying To You About Overnight Success!Listen at 21:16
Relationships require daily earned love and deliberate design to remain collaborative under stress.
“earned love on a daily basis by knowing how to hack the brain, the neuroendocrine system”
Open the episode · Couples Therapist: “The One Rule Every Relationship Must Live By” - Stan Tatkin -#1146Listen at 0:57
Long-term relationships need a shared purpose beyond feelings.
“you have to have first a shared purpose, a reason for being in this relationship”
Open the episode · Couples Therapist: “The One Rule Every Relationship Must Live By” - Stan Tatkin -#1146Listen at 4:29
Couples should deliberately design relationship structures to survive change and stress.
“we need an invention, we need a design from the ground up, which is a made-up thing”
Open the episode · Couples Therapist: “The One Rule Every Relationship Must Live By” - Stan Tatkin -#1146Listen at 5:36
Couples inevitably accumulate threat memories when conflicts are mishandled.
“The chances of us accruing threat memory by getting things wrong based on memory and appraisal is 100%.”
Open the episode · Couples Therapist: “The One Rule Every Relationship Must Live By” - Stan Tatkin -#1146Listen at 6:30
Couples should plan for harmful behavior under pressure rather than ideal behavior.
“we plan on our devils, not our angels”
Open the episode · Couples Therapist: “The One Rule Every Relationship Must Live By” - Stan Tatkin -#1146Listen at 7:23
Couples can structurally design their relationship to reduce insecurity at home.
“you can structure things this way. You can't control everything else outside of this, but home, I think, is as a relationship.”
Open the episode · Couples Therapist: “The One Rule Every Relationship Must Live By” - Stan Tatkin -#1146Listen at 52:09
Finding someone you love is better than the apparent excitement of single life.
“But trust me, if you found someone you love, you're winning.”
Open the episode · Jocko Willink, Matt McCusker & Jeff Dye - Mostly Wise #3 - #1139Listen at 1:30:00
A relationship should end when recommitment will not pay off for the people involved.
“based on who we are now, do we want to recommit to this? Will it pay off in the future. And if the answer is no, it will not pay off in the future. You've already answered the question.”
Open the episode · The Quitting Expert: Sunk Costs Are Keeping You TRAPPED, Quit Before AI Comes! | Seth GodinListen at 49:23
Relying on a partner’s potential rather than present behavior is likely to produce misery.
“you can try and bet on a future where his ambition fuel runs out, but you're basically in love with the potential of someone as opposed to who they actually are if you do that. And I think that's a reliable way to be pretty miserable.”
Open the episode · Q&A: Becoming A Dad, Health Update & Favourite Peptides - #1134Listen at 4:55
Feeling lonely most of the time indicates an unhappy relationship.
“if you feel lonely 90% of the time, that is not how a relationship is supposed to feel.”
Open the episode · Q&A: Becoming A Dad, Health Update & Favourite Peptides - #1134Listen at 6:01
Finding love requires risking rejection.
“You can't get loved if you Never risk getting rejected.”
Open the episode · 33 Brutal Truths To Stop Wasting Your Potential - Alex Hormozi - #1117Listen at 4:05:20
People should not expect relationships to constantly provide novelty or excitement.
“you shouldn't be looking to your relationship for something that your relationship isn't supposed to supply all the time.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 26:56
In many relationships, desire exceeds emotional capacity and maturity.
“desire in most relationship now outpaces capacity and emotional maturity”
Open the episode · Why You’re Obsessed, Anxious, & Still Single - Mercedes Coffman - #1092Listen at 40:36
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