Sliding versus deciding

Heard in 1 episode across 1 show since Jul 2026

Sliding versus deciding is a psychological and sociological framework developed by researchers Scott M. Stanley, Galena K. Rhoades, and Howard J. Markman in 2006 to describe how couples navigate major relationship transitions. 'Sliding' refers to passively moving into significant milestones, such as cohabitation, without deliberate discussion, which can create relationship inertia and increase the risk of future distress or divorce. In contrast, 'deciding' involves making intentional, thoughtful choices about relationship progression, which is associated with higher commitment and relationship quality.