What podcasts say about Vanessa Van Edwards
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What Vanessa Van Edwards has said on podcasts
89 statements · 43 positive · 32 negative · 1 mixed · 13 neutral
Investing in conversation skills provides career insurance.
“People who are investing in conversation skills right now are creating career insurance.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 2:42
Masterful conversationalists will gain an advantage amid technological change.
“the people who are masterful at conversation are going to have an advantage”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 3:00
Future generations will talk more with technology than humans.
“I think the next generations will be talking to technology more than they talk to humans.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 3:21
Future generations will talk more with technology than with humans.
“I think the next generations will be talking to technology more than they talk to humans.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 3:22
Fulfilling friendships and conversation can improve longevity for lonely people.
“If you are lonely, finding friends that are actually fulfilling and give you the joy of conversation is going to give you a longevity boost.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 3:55
Conversation skill can be learned rather than being purely innate.
“I think you can learn to be good at conversation”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 4:38
Conversation ability is learnable and produces continuing benefits.
“I think you can learn to be good at conversation, and it's the one skill that keeps on giving.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 4:38
Trying to impress rather than discover makes conversation less effective.
“The wrong way to approach conversation is trying to impress, not discover.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 5:08
Approaching conversation to impress is inferior to approaching it to discover.
“The wrong way to approach conversation is trying to impress, not discover.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 5:08
Van Edwards conducted three speed-networking experiments involving 500 participants.
“We devised 3 different speed networking experiments with 500 speed networkers.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 7:26
- on “What was the highlight of your day?”PositiveSep 10, 2026· The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
“What was the highlight of your day?” performed best as a conversation starter.
“The best conversation starter was actually a sneaker. I was like, interesting that this one did best by lot. It was, what was the highlight of your day?”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 9:35
- on “What was the highlight of your day?”PositiveSep 10, 2026· The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Asking about a daily highlight prompts the listener to search for positive experiences.
“You're actually asking the other person's brain to search for optimism.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 10:04
Asking “What’s your story?” can trigger stress in introverted people.
“For someone who's introverted or someone who has never framed their story that quickly, they're immediately put into cortisol.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 11:38
Asking “What’s your story?” too early can trigger conversational fear.
“They're immediately put into cortisol. They're immediately put into fight or flight.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 11:43
People generally process social information from less to more intimate.
“Our brain processes social facts from least least intimate to most intimate.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 12:41
Basic facts are needed before exploring someone’s deepest dreams and worries.
“we cannot get to know someone on their deepest dreams and worries if we don't know the basic facts about them.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 12:49
Connected, engaged employees collaborate more effectively.
“connected people collaborate better. Engaged employees work better together.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 20:18
Connection and employee engagement improve collaboration and productivity.
“connected people collaborate better. Engaged employees work better together. We are more productive when we feel good.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 20:18
Communication friction imposes financial costs on companies.
“Communication friction costs companies money.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 20:47
Communication friction imposes financial costs on companies.
“Communication friction costs companies money.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 20:47
- on “Tell me something good” team interventionPositiveSep 10, 2026· The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Teams should begin weekly meetings with a brief “tell me something good” round.
“the team intervention that I encourage every virtual or in-person team to do is once a week at the start of a meeting, start with, tell me something good.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 22:25
- on “Tell me something good” team exercisePositiveSep 10, 2026· The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Teams should begin weekly meetings with a brief positive-sharing exercise.
“start with tell me something good.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 22:31
Thinking about goals activates brain processes associated with dopamine.
“When we talk about goals, it activates a part of our brain that triggers dopamine.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 31:28
People should disengage when others are unwilling or unable to connect.
“If someone is not your person or they are not ready to connect, why would you waste your energy on that?”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 33:53
People should answer “What do you do?” with role, audience, and method.
“I do blank for who? Buy how.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 40:20
A typical conversational turn should last roughly 15–30 seconds.
“Wonderful. 15 to 30 seconds.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 41:57
A typical conversational turn should last roughly 15–30 seconds.
“15 to 30 seconds. Okay, so in average conversation, we like 15 to 30 seconds.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 41:57
Turns longer than about 45 seconds begin to resemble monologues.
“45 seconds is okay, but we start to turn to a monologue.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 42:02
Conversation begins resembling a monologue when a turn exceeds roughly 45 seconds.
“45 seconds is okay, but we start to turn to a monologue.”
Open the episode · Likeability Expert: Stop Doing This, It’s Why People Quietly Avoid You! | Vanessa Van EdwardsListen at 42:02
Voice notes function as monologues rather than genuine conversations.
“a voice note is not a conversation. A voice note is a monologue.”
Open the episode · Vanessa Van Edwards: The Conversation Habit That Makes Smart People UnlikableListen at 43:30
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