What podcasts say about Dr. K
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What Dr. K has said on podcasts
91 statements · 25 positive · 47 negative · 4 mixed · 15 neutral
Willpower and discipline can create future problems when overemphasized.
“when we focus on willpower and discipline and all this kind of stuff, it actually creates problems in the future”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 2:41
Contentment can be developed as a skill.
“contentment itself is a cultivatable skill”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 4:30
Rock bottom is not fixed; it is the lowest point before reversal.
“Rock bottom doesn't exist. Rock bottom is just the lowest point that you happen to go before you turn around.”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 13:49
Rock bottom occurs when someone decides to change direction.
“rock bottom is the moment that you decide to turn around”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 14:09
Rock bottom is a decision rather than a physical or situational place.
“rock bottom is a choice, not a place”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 14:54
Changing one’s relationship to a problem matters more than avoiding or obtaining it.
“It is not the avoidance of the thing or getting the thing. It is changing your relationship to the thing itself.”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:08:43
Dr. K defines karma as cause and effect rather than moral justice.
“Karma is nothing more than the principle of cause and effect.”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:15:32
People choose actions but cannot escape their consequences.
“it's your choice whether you jump off the cliff, but it's destiny whether you fall after you make your decision”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:18:53
People must live with the consequences of their choices.
“We make choices and we have to live with the consequences of our choices.”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:19:41
The brain continuously changes through ongoing neural wiring.
“your brain is plastic 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, which means it is constantly wiring”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:20:50
Repeatedly postponing tasks can reinforce avoidance behavior.
“If you do not do that task today, you will train yourself to not do tasks.”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:20:57
External problem-solving does not necessarily resolve underlying self-esteem problems.
“solving your problems doesn't solve your problems”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:34:26
Achievement cannot substitute for addressing foundational psychological needs.
“the top of the mountain is not a substitute for the bottom of the mountain”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:35:25
Attachment to pleasure can produce obsession.
“pleasure leads to obsession if you don't react to it correctly”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:43:45
Awareness of cravings can weaken their automatic control.
“anytime you want a potato chip, just be aware of it”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:45:43
Greater pleasure is associated with lower contentment.
“the more pleasure you have in your life, the less content you'll be”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:49:15
Awareness activates the anterior cingulate cortex and reduces automatic behavior.
“anytime you become aware of something, something really interesting happens. It's the anterior cingulate cortex. Once that turns on and you become aware of something, the automaticity of the brain turns”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 1:53:42
Shame arises from a perceived gap between current and desired self.
“shame is the gap between what you are and what you want to be”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 2:12:43
Freedom requires accepting failure without guaranteed success.
“you need to fail and that's it, bro. If you want freedom, you need to be able to fail”
Open the episode · 4 Men Share How They Hit Rock Bottom (and got out) - Dr K, Joe Hudson & Connor Beaton - #1159Listen at 2:14:07
Overlapping gambling, pornography, and gaming behaviors tend to share an underlying cause.
“Gambling, pornography, video games. So generally speaking, when you see multiple overlapping things, they tend to have a shared etiology”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 1:57
Addiction involves behavior that provides pleasure while reducing pain.
“Something that gives you pleasure and takes away pain.”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 2:34
Play develops skills needed for survival.
“play trains us in the skills that are necessary for survival”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 7:11
Video games can substitute for life, contributing to addiction.
“It's actually a substitute for life. That's why people get addicted.”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 8:02
Daily gaming can make people feel they are accelerating through life.
“many human beings on the planet are just like hitting the fast forward button on their lives.”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 8:33
Screen time, especially gaming, is inversely associated with life purpose and direction.
“purpose and direction in life, it's inversely correlated with like the amount of time that you spend on a screen largely, especially playing things like video games.”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 10:34
Purpose or direction in life protects against pornography addiction.
“the strongest protective factor against especially things like pornography addiction is actually having purpose or direction in life.”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 10:46
People addicted to pornography commonly report meaninglessness or purposelessness.
“they have a very high rate of meaninglessness or purposelessness in life.”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 11:45
Meaninglessness contributes to pornography use and gaming as substitute meaning.
“meaninglessness leads to pornography, and meaninglessness also leads to the substitute of meaning through video games”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 13:26
Men face increasingly difficult expectations while their capabilities have declined.
“the standards for men have not changed, but the expectations of men, for men have not changed. If any, anything, they've gotten arguably more difficult. And the capabilities of men have decreased.”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 14:33
Gambling can appear to offer men a shortcut to status and financial security.
“One of the simplest ways to solve that gap is to make it big in gambling.”
Open the episode · The Brutal Reality For Most Men Today (& how to fix it) - Dr K HealthyGamer - #1151Listen at 15:08
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