What podcasts say about Paul Eastwick
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What Paul Eastwick has said on podcasts
30 statements · 16 positive · 5 negative · 1 mixed · 8 neutral
Spending time together reduces attractiveness-driven market inequality.
“the more that people spend time together, getting to know each other, it reduces some of those market forces”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 0:26
Interpersonal disagreement can produce compatibility that enables couples to form.
“it's this level of sort of disagreement or the emergence of what we might call compatibility”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 8:40
Shared time and unique interactions can generate romantic attraction.
“attraction can form when two people spend that time together sort of pulling unique things out of each other”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 12:48
Dating apps concentrate attention and messages on the most popular users.
“The apps absolutely pull for this. So when you look at who gets the right swipes and who receives messages on the apps, it's the most popular people.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 18:13
Shared stories and moments are central to developing attraction.
“The life of the thing is the little stories and moments that two people are sharing.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 24:08
Most relationships begin with a middling first impression rather than an immediate spark.
“Typically, if you look at what most relationships look like and you look back at the beginning, the. The typical first impression is middling.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 26:50
People usually develop relationship certainty gradually rather than instantly.
“It usually doesn't happen instantaneously that people know right away”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 29:10
Individuals’ own perceptions usually drive relationship judgments more than outside consensus.
“people's own impressions and perceptions tend to be the major driver”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 31:21
Couples embedded in supportive couple-friend networks generally fare better.
“couples who feel like they have couple friends and are embedded in networks like that, that that generally tends to go well on average”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 46:36
A perceived availability of social support provides health and wellbeing benefits.
“you kind of have a vague sense that people are around and that's the part that matters. That's the part that gives us the health and well being benefits.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 53:37
Women swipe positively far less often than men on dating apps.
“women will swipe yes on like 5% of the men they see, but men swipe yes at about 50.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:00:09
Men are much more likely than women to accept sex offers from strangers.
“you find that men are about 20 times more likely to say yes to that request than women”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:01:42
Among acquaintances, men are only twice as likely as women to accept casual-sex invitations.
“men are still more likely, but they're only twice as likely rather than 20 times as likely”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:02:40
Repeated socializing with friends is generally more effective than approaching strangers for meeting partners.
“hitting on strangers is like low yield, very difficult. Spending time with friends, it's time consuming, although it's enjoyable in and of itself. It's a time consuming approach, but it's ultimately going to be better for more people”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:05:11
Text-based wit gives some daters a modern romantic advantage.
“the ability to be witty over text as opposed to the kind of like non verbal listening that you're describing, that is going to be a special advantage for some people today”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:14:45
Reciprocal self-disclosure generally improves early romantic connection.
“whenever there are routes to go for a little bit more disclosure, I usually advise that that people go for will pay off on average”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:26:31
Men and women show equal preferences for ambitious partners in speed-dating studies.
“the magnitude of that preference was identical”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:33:51
Men and women generally want the same things from close relationships.
“Men and women, they want the same things out of their relationships.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:35:43
Historically, same-sex couples often took longer to form relationships.
“That process has tended historically to be even longer for folks who are gays and lesbians forming same gender relationships.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:38:25
Education and income mismatches do not generally predict relationship problems.
“the mismatches in the level of education and in the level of income, those don't spell a problem”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:45:41
Low-SES men’s acute loneliness and lack of belonging are major relationship-related concerns.
“if they're really feeling that acute sense of loneliness, of lack of belonging, you know, among like real people in their lives, that's the thing I worry about”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:46:10
Women, like men, show somewhat greater interest in younger dating partners.
“Women are doing the same thing. They're a little bit more interested in the younger guys.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:51:19
Dating-app filtering for crucial preferences such as wanting children is reasonable.
“if somebody really wants kids, shouldn't it be within their power to craft a pool of partners who also want kids to give them that opportunity? Like that seems like a reasonable, humanistic thing to do.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 1:54:29
Measured similarity barely improves prediction of whether two strangers will click.
“if what I wanted to do was take two people who had never met and assess everything I could about them and then figure out whether they were going to be a match or not based on whether they were similar, I really was probably going to be no better than a coin flip”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 2:05:36
Happy partners tend to perceive alternative partners as less desirable than they are.
“for people who are in relationships, and especially if they are happy in that relationship, any alternative partner that you can throw at them, they will tend to think that that alternative partner is pretty weak sauce”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 2:10:27
Attraction to an alternative can temporarily increase attraction to one’s current partner.
“when we feel a sense of attraction, it can rebound onto our partner”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 2:14:52
Attraction to others is usually harmless; repeated pursuit increases infidelity risk.
“The simple fact that we can be attracted to other people, people. That is not a problem for the average relationship. It's the repeated follow through on that attraction that becomes a problem.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 2:16:21
Longer relationship duration is associated with lower average happiness.
“if we're looking strictly at relationship duration, honestly, on average, it tends to be a bad sign”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 2:31:36
Perceived sexual competence strongly predicts relationship positivity and continuation.
“feeling like this person is a good lover or likely to be a good lover in the case of the attraction scenarios is a very, very good sign for how positively you feel about the relationship in general and whether you want the relationship to continue”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 2:38:35
In-person socialization is recovering after a pandemic-related decline.
“it was like a long pandemic hangover where we just kind of forgot this part of our social architecture. But it's coming back.”
Open the episode · Science of Attraction, Compatibility & Romance | Dr. Paul EastwickListen at 2:46:09
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