What podcasts say about Quinlan Walther
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What Quinlan Walther has said on podcasts
49 statements · 18 positive · 18 negative · 2 mixed · 11 neutral
A chosen partner can reveal self-perception, especially reactions to others’ judgments.
“It can tell a lot, but I think more importantly is the way that they feel about someone's judgment of that.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 0:18
Self-loving people are more likely to seek aligned relationships rather than settle.
“And someone who really loved themselves probably would have gone and found something that really aligns rather than just settling for what was there.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 2:15
Building self-trust is necessary for sustainable fulfillment.
“Self trust to me is ultimately what you have to build in order to find fulfillment, sustainable fulfillment in this life.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 2:54
People cannot eliminate life’s uncertainty through control or strategy.
“there's no way to outrun that uncertainty.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 3:29
Accepting psychological labels without examination limits self-understanding.
“You sell yourself short when you don't take the time to maybe question the label or look underneath the label.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 5:50
Destructive relationship patterns may stem from associations linking love with abandonment or pain.
“That's the real problem, my association with love.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 6:37
People generally prefer familiar emotional patterns to unfamiliar ones.
“we typically prefer what's familiar over what's unfamiliar.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 7:38
Without intentional effort, people tend to remain within familiar emotional ranges.
“We're gonna probably stay within that ratio.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 7:51
People often anticipate negative outcomes even during positive emotional experiences.
“when the good stuff comes up, we're either waiting for the shoe to drop.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 8:35
Intentionality and self-trust help people move beyond familiar destructive relationships.
“the only way, the only way that we get around that is by being intentional, by trusting ourselves to go figure out what we really want and lean in to the uncertainty and the lack of familiarity.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 12:12
Adrenaline in dating can signal danger or learned associations with love.
“the adrenaline in the body is essentially either a red flag or you've learned that that sensation, this is what love is.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 13:32
Perceived safety is a fundamental psychological question underlying attachment.
“at the core of all of that, the first question that we have is, am I safe?”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 16:37
Healthy relationships and self-actualization begin with safety and belonging.
“you have to start at the bottom, which is safety and belonging.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 18:11
Belonging should not depend on performing a particular identity or role.
“you belong just for existing.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 20:02
Emotional capacity reduces fear by increasing confidence in managing difficult feelings.
“building the capacity to feel these feelings. And then you aren't so concerned about what the world's going to throw at you because you know that these big, uncomfortable feelings, though uncomfortable, you can manage them.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 23:16
Positive associations with love support healthier and more stable relationships.
“Positive associations with love bring you a happy, healthy, stable, living relationship.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 24:20
Disliking a relationship may indicate conditioning that equates poor treatment with love.
“if not, there's probably something in your conditioning that has taught you to associate this subpar behavior with love.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 24:43
People should not expect relationships to constantly provide novelty or excitement.
“you shouldn't be looking to your relationship for something that your relationship isn't supposed to supply all the time.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 26:56
People often project their values onto partners instead of accepting partners’ differences.
“we're more than likely to look at that person and try to change them, try to project onto them what we value rather than looking at them as what they are, which is a whole other person.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 31:54
People may end good relationships because they judge partners by their own values.
“I think we end a lot of good relationships, potentially great relationships, for that reason.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 33:24
A strong sense of self increases perceived attractiveness.
“People who have a strong sense of self are attractive. Period.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 34:51
Knowing relationship values makes it easier to reject unsuitable relationships.
“When you know what you value in a relationship, it becomes a hell of a lot easier to say, does this feel the way that I want love to feel?”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 37:11
Partners should understand how the other person wants to receive love.
“do you know how the person you're with wants to be loved?”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 38:09
Strong love and consideration help relationships endure periods of stress.
“if you have it tenfold, if you have all of the love and consideration, all those things that when you get down to running on E, there's still a little bit of that left.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 40:54
Empathy without personal boundaries leads to self-abandonment.
“Empathy without boundaries is self abandonment.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 41:21
Understanding harmful behavior does not justify tolerating it.
“It doesn't mean that it's reason to tolerate behavior that's disrespectful or harmful.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 44:05
Personal boundaries govern one’s own actions rather than controlling others.
“Boundaries are rules for yourself. For yourself.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 46:01
People can share core values despite differing political beliefs or voting choices.
“You can have similar values and. Oh God, I should put on the thing. You can, you can, you can have similar values at the heart of it and it can look quite different as far as who you're voting for and what you believe.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 50:41
Differentiation allows connection with others while preserving an independent sense of self.
“differentiation is essentially, I can stay connected to me while also being connected to you.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 53:21
Shame, hatred, and vitriol do not produce sustainable interpersonal change.
“Sustainable change. Real conversation, real, real understanding doesn't come from spewing vitriol at other people. It doesn't come from hatred.”
Open the episode · How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110Listen at 56:22
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