What podcasts say about Suzanne Venker
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What Suzanne Venker has said on podcasts
31 statements · 9 positive · 17 negative · 5 neutral
Career-centered messaging has misled women about integrating marriage and motherhood.
“the messaging has been for decades now. You can do anything you want to do without any caveats there, with no explanation or nuance. You need to sort of prove yourself in the world in the way men do, because equality is the goal.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 0:54
Gender-sameness messaging has not worked over several decades.
“And it's just not working. It's been several decades now with this messaging.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 2:58
Modern culture equates women’s empowerment with paid employment.
“You can't be powerful or happy or liberated or empowered if you're not working for pay.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 7:36
Career-centered decisions can leave women unable to stay home after priorities shift.
“they desperately want a baby or they want to get married and can't find a man or they are pregnant and they want to stay home and can't because they made all these decisions professionally, relationally, financially to set them up for a life where you are never out of the workforce.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 8:17
Women should prioritize family when choosing education and careers.
“I want them to put family first and make these decisions orbit around that.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 10:17
Flexible, part-time, or home-based careers preserve future family options.
“the kind of career that you can a move in and out of more easily, ones that can be done more, more maybe part time or from home, ones that give you control.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 10:24
Women’s priorities commonly change substantially between ages 22 and 32.
“what you're gonna feel like is important at 32 is gonna be very different from what you feel like at 22.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 11:11
Inability to stay home after having children can damage marriages and families.
“it's hurting their marriages. Obviously it's not just hurting them personally, but if, if, for example, if you want to stay home but you can't because you've set up this life, it's going to hurt their marriage. So then the marriage is falling apart, the family's falling apart.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 14:06
Student debt has contributed to worsening family-planning constraints in America.
“one of the reasons, or one of the, one of the ways I think this began to go really downhill is student debt, which is a massive problem in America.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 15:53
Women should avoid marrying men without professional footing or financial dependability.
“you just basically don't want to marry a man who hasn't found themselves professionally because you again, going back to, you're going to have fewer options down the road because you in fact do need a man on whom you can depend financially”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 20:04
Mothers require emotional and financial support after having children.
“we know instinctively that women become vulnerable when they have a child and that they're going to need support, both emotional and financial, for X period of time.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 20:51
Children need substantial quantity time rather than brief intensive quality time.
“That whole quality time thing is bogus. That's not real. Children need tons and tons and tons of quantity time, not quality time.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 31:03
Daycare is harmful during children’s early years.
“we don't even talk about the early years. We don't talk about daycare being bad, for example.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 33:26
Motherhood commonly shifts women’s priorities from paid work toward nurturing.
“when a woman goes through all of that physically in being pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding, and being at home in those early months or years, nurturing. I mean, when she has a baby, her first inclination is not to financially provide for the baby.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 34:35
Breadwinning pressure becomes taxing for many women after they become mothers.
“Ultimately, that pressure to produce becomes very taxing once you've become a wife and mother, especially a mother”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 37:36
Providing for a family is men’s strongest incentive to work hard.
“the greatest incentive of all has always been providing for a family.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 41:32
Social progress does not eliminate biological sex differences in preferences.
“societal progress does not undo biological leanings.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 47:51
Having children with a spouse creates a lifelong connection despite divorce.
“who you marry, if you have children with them, you are tied with them until you die.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 51:06
Female fertility constraints make seeking a family at age 40 different from doing so at 30.
“a 40 year old man can marry a 30 year old woman and still have a family and it's not going to be the same If a woman's 40 and looking for a husband.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 53:25
People dating for marriage should disclose intentions within the first three dates.
“I'm almost to the point where I'm like, just, just get it out on the table in the first three dates”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 53:56
Cohabitation can cause couples to slide into marriage without deliberate commitment.
“People often slide into marriage as a result of everything you just described. As opposed to making a conscious, well thought out decision in advance.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:00:08
Couples should avoid cohabiting before engagement but may live together afterward.
“Like not live together, date, live in their own. No, I mean, once they're engaged, that's fine.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:00:23
Unmarried couples should avoid financially binding arrangements such as buying property together.
“Don't do anything financial that binds you. If you're not married, you're gonna. It's a. It's a. It's a really dumb idea.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:08:22
Couples should agree before marriage on family structure and income arrangements.
“You have to know in advance of getting married, what kind of family are we gonna have and what's that structure gonna look like? And you have to be on the same team about it.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:10:55
Raising children does not require substantial wealth if families adapt spending to available resources.
“you don't need to have a lot of money to have children. You need to want to have a family and utilize the monies that you have to make that work.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:26:36
Childhood obesity tripled over 50 years while mothers entered the workforce en masse.
“The obesity, the childhood obesity, which tripled in the last 50 years, happened at the same time. Mothers left the home en masse”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:39:32
Young children should receive care at home or from close caregivers rather than daycare centers.
“Daycare is the last place that littles belong. Littles belong at home with their mom, if not with mom, with dad, if not with dad, then grandma, if not with grandma, and nanny, if not with a nanny. A neighborhood small. I mean, daycare is the bottom of the bottom.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:47:11
Institutional daycare cannot adequately provide the one-to-one attachment young children need.
“the attachment that you are trying to replace for what they need in those early years, that can only be really done with one on one person. It can't be had in an environment like that.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:47:47
Long daycare hours can cause child exhaustion that undermines effective parenting at home.
“there's a huge piece of sleep deprivation that is also not discussed with those early years in long care that bleeds over into the home and your ability to parent properly and well because of that exhaustion piece.”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:52:39
Early childhood love and trust shape relationships in adulthood.
“the most important thing for a child in the first three years of life is to develop the intangibles of love and trust that will then carry them into their own adult relationships later on”
Open the episode · The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113Listen at 1:56:28
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