What podcasts say about Paul Conti
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What Paul Conti has said on podcasts
63 statements · 33 positive · 22 negative · 2 mixed · 6 neutral
A person’s self-view and self-relationship are highly changeable.
“I think it's very malleable. I think there's a lot of flexibility”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 4:09
People generally have more going right than wrong in their lives.
“there's far more going right in any of us, in all of us, than there is going wrong”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 5:18
Mental-health practice often emphasizes problems over strengths.
“the mental health system really tells us to look at ourselves in the opposite way, to look at ourselves through what is going wrong”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 5:43
Some mental-health labels can worsen helplessness or hopelessness.
“to put labels on ourselves that often just make us feel worse or make us feel more helpless or hopeless”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 5:51
High stress and rapid living increase people’s dependence on their current state.
“when that happens, we become very state dependent”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 9:19
An observing self can integrate experiences across different emotional states.
“there's a whole self that's riding above all of it. It's observing us and knitting us together”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 9:46
Self-directed curiosity can reveal what increases or decreases personal happiness.
“bringing curiosity to ourselves, what runs through everything we do, and also how we're different in different situations can help lead us to all sorts of answers about what makes us happy and what doesn't”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 14:00
Modern connectivity can leave people with insufficient solitude.
“where the modern world has gone is it offers us too much the opposite, right? Where there's not enough aloneness”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 20:12
Excessive connectivity encourages reliance on external cues for preferences and feelings.
“if we're over connected, then in order to decide what it is, we even like or prefer how we feel about things, we're looking for external cues”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 20:20
Excessive action without reflection produces diminishing returns.
“if there's too much doing and not enough reflection, not a lot of good will come from that”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 24:14
Insufficient activity can contribute to idleness and learned helplessness.
“if we're doing too little, then we can feel idle and there can be a sense of learned helplessness”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 24:27
Writing or speaking thoughts activates additional cognitive processes.
“when we take the thought process outside of us, so if we write the words down or if we say the words, we say the words to another person, then we're bringing different brain processes online”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 30:58
Excessive inward processing can make thinking overly self-referential.
“If too much internal processing can be too self referential”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 39:12
Quietness or hyperverbal behavior cannot be interpreted without personal and situational context.
“all of those things being internalized, speaking less, or being hyperverbal, they could mean anything under the sun”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 45:34
State regulation should support functioning rather than impose an unnatural personality change.
“controlling our states in order to help us be at our best is different from trying to control our state so that we change ourselves”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 49:44
Examining one’s life is central to maintaining mental health and intentional living.
“this idea that we must examine our lives is at the heart of all of this”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 57:34
Repeatedly harmful behaviors identify areas requiring psychological investigation.
“The X's mark the spot to dig”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:00:29
Small successes increase confidence for pursuing larger changes.
“small wins empower and embolden us to take a little bit more chances and get bigger wins”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:06:32
Insight into personal patterns increases agency over behavior.
“it's insight that sets us free and it's insight that puts us in the driver's seat of our lives”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:10:17
Recognizing controlling influences can reduce internal tension and restore control.
“When we realize that there's something, whether it's external or internal, controlling us, right? It diffuses that tension”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:14:40
Self-sabotaging behavior reflects protective motives rather than self-directed hostility.
“we're not our own enemy”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:20:59
For some people, contemplating exercise is more exhausting than exercising.
“thinking about trying to go to the gym takes more energy from them than actually being there”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:25:10
Intrusive thoughts always carry an underlying meaning.
“There is, is a meaning to intrusive thoughts. There always is.”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:30:41
Dreams can be meaningful regardless of a person’s cognitive style.
“people's dreams can have a lot of meaning, you know, regardless of what kind of thinker they are”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:32:18
Present triggers can reactivate emotional experiences from the past.
“a trigger in the now can make then now”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:37:45
Reflecting on positive experiences can improve happiness, health, and effectiveness without causing complacency.
“we should all do a lot more of that. And we wouldn't become complacent, we would become happier, healthier, more effective in our lives”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:43:23
Displaying positive memories can bias unconscious processing toward positive interpretations.
“he is priming the unconscious mind to see the positive side of things”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:47:11
Sustained happy-go-lucky living is neither realistic nor desirable.
“I don't think that you can be happy go lucky”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:53:25
People can build happiness through peace, contentment, and delight despite life’s difficulties.
“we can weave peace, contentment and delight into our lives”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:55:45
Lasting wellbeing comes from agency and acceptance, not escape from difficult experience.
“we're not looking for escape. What we're looking for is the ability to apprehend our own lives, feel enough in control of our own lives”
Open the episode · Tools to Bolster Your Mental Health & Confidence | Dr. Paul ContiListen at 1:57:33
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